Scarlett?

So I've been wondering lately if, instead of Maggie the Cat, I may be like one of my least favorite literary characters, Scarlett O'Hara. Have I spent years pining over Ashley Wilkes when what I really wanted was Rhett? Even if that's so, Rhett was no great prize. He drank too much, couldn't express his feelings openly and honestly, slept with other women, and was a general pain in the ass. So maybe Ashley is weak and I just want him cause I can't have him but good lord.....